Am I a good housewife???

I have spent the week solely at home for the first time since my son was born 9 months ago. This left a lot of time to think and thoughts turned to the things I have done to pass the time which subsequently lead to me thinking ... am I a good housewife??? Compared to the 50's I would say I'm a little slack in my duties. 

I conducted a good old Google Search and here is what I found 'society' believes makes a good wife...

1) Be pleasant: Never be rude to our husband. A good wife honors her hubby by keeping a pleasant tone in her voice, a happy smile on her face and a neat and clean appearance. If you don't like how you partner treats you, take a minute to notice how you treat your partner and correct your behavior.

So him coming home to you in your comfy clothes smeared with baby food and snot is not pleasant for them to be greeted with...FAILED

2) Treat your Husband with Respect: A good wife respects her hubby and she never chooses to belittle, strike, humiliate or otherwise harm him in private nor in public. It is better to watch what you say and think before speaking as it is not possible to take back the words once they are said. A good wife will treat her man with respect in front of others and at home.

Er how about the other way around???

3) Communicate: Communication is key to a good and solid marriage. You may have a dozen important things to tell him but allow him to talk first. Don't greet him with complaints and problems the moment he comes back from work. Good Communication also helps to build trust and strengthen your relationship. Do not resort to name calling, hitting, spitting, breaking dishes or anything else when you lose your temper. If you do he may actually start to fall out of love with you and you could lose him all together.

I never loose my temper...but him talk first when our baby conquers so much in one day...I think not.

4) Be Supportive: A husband expects wife’s support and understanding especially in times of troubles. A good wife loves her hubby through his successes and failures and provides reassurance when he's feeling down. Do not belittle your man or hurt his ego. It is often heard saying that ‘a wife can make a man or break a man’.  

I think I'd pass this one but then again it's usually him supporting me...poor sod he's put up with alot.

5) Do not nag: No man would like a nagging wife. If you want to get your own way ask him nicely. Many wives think that is the only way to get her husband to do things is by nagging. But the truth is that your nagging can create unwanted rift or can make things worse between the two of you. Your husband is a grown man with his own thoughts and desires. Just because you think he should be doing something particular doesn't mean he has to do it.

Nagging works I get want I want and am happy and pleasant and therefore I have succeeded at point 1.

6) Give him his space: As a wife you need to understand that your husband has a life other than you also. He has his family, friends and colleagues who too are part of his life. He also may have some hobbies or passions he is involved in. Don’t expect his undivided attention. Don’t stop him if he wants to go out and hang out with his friends sometimes or engage in a hobby or sport that he likes. An interfering wife can sometimes be too irritating.

So they get a life and we don't...sounds about right to me

7) Keep him happy in Bed: Sexual intimacy is one of the most essential things in any marriage. Please your man in bed. If you cannot keep your man happy in Bed he would go where he can get it. After all, a Man is a man!

No comment...lol :-)

8) Plan Surprises: Men like surprises too. It can be anything like organizing his birthday party without him knowing about it or planning a special night of passion by playing a seductress. Your surprises do not have to be elaborate and can be as simple as making him his favorite snack or any of his favorite dishes once in a while even if you would rather eat something else.

Ok so I took the time to Bake and actual pudding and what do I get...'I'm not hungry I had McD's with Matt!

9) Express your love and appreciation often: Men likes praises and appreciation. Make the best of your time together. Men like to hear the words ‘I love you’ too. Also join him in activities that he's interested in even though you would have preferred to do something else. Give him a thoughtful gift once in a while. Make it a point never to forget the special days in his life. Pamper him very often, especially when he is at home. You can even cook for him or give him a good massage. Making him dependent on you by doing his chores when he is at home is not a bad idea. Let him miss you and think about you when you are not around. These gestures won’t go unnoticed and it may even inspire him to do something nice for you. Don't withhold affection.

I should get a gold medal for this one but I draw the line at joining in on the computer games

10) Prepare the House: Maintain a clean house all the time. Clear away the clutter and spend time decorating the house. Apart from this be wise with money and take all the responsibilities of a wife seriously without complaining.

Now this I pass on...OCD is a gift

So results are in i'm actually a bit rubbish at being a housewife...good job we're not married then :-) I'll stick to being a fabulous mummy instead!